Born in Dallas, TX January 14, 1920, Betty Blackman Marsh made her way
through life led by a faith in God she learned from her parents. When
she was called Home by God on February 26, 2015, she had left gentle but
indelible marks on the lives of her family and a wide circle of friends.
She was truly the heart of our family.
Betty was raised at the Texaco Refinery in Tulsa, with sister Anne and
brother Ted, by their parents Ted and Marguerite Blackman. At Riverview
Elementary, Horace Mann Jr. High and Central HS, Betty made great friendships;
she would meet classmates for lunch into her nineties. At Central (with
5,000 students in a 4-storiy building on a full city block), sports, parties,
dances and social clubs made time fly. She loved to hang out at 'the
horse' with her friends.
College, a year at K- State and a semester at TU, was marked by three things.
She was initiated into Delta Delta Delta sorority and made lifetime friendships.
She came to realize all chemistry courses were barriers to the future.
And, it was life, not academics, that was calling her.
It was off to sunny California where she would meet fellow Oklahoman Earl
Marsh at the local USO. Betty would later tell family and dear friends,
"Earl wasn't much of a dancer" but this handsome, soft-spoken
young man was "the one". They married in Tacoma, WA in August,
1942. When Earl's unit shipped out for England, then Europe, in early
'43, Betty returned to OK to give birth to son Ron and wait for Earl's return.
Betty and Earl added two beautiful daughters, Molly and Cindy to their
family. Living in a home Earl built, Betty was a loving mother and wife,
a wonderful cook, a prize-winning seamstress, and active in the PTA. In
'56, Betty became the Secretary at Holmes Elementary and began a 27
year career. Betty and Earl took up bridge and joined the Southwood Club
with all its social activities. Family recreation was frequently around
the water of NE Oklahoma and Missouri with much of the time at Grand Lake
where Betty's parents had retired.
In August, 1974, Betty lost her beloved Earl to cancer. In true Betty-fashion,
she drew strength from friends and family, and coped through a high level
of activities. From the mid-'70's and into the turn of the century,
Betty was heavily involved in Tulsa's contract bridge community. As
part-owner of the Tulsa Bridge Studio, she loved playing bridge, competed
in many tournaments, and became an ACBL Life Master. Travel would see
her go with friends to Hawaii, the British Isles and Europe.
Betty is survived by: son Ron Marsh (Kathy), daughters Molly Kramer (Galand)
& Cindy Cunningham (Jacques); grandchildren Jodi Trast (Tom), Patrick
Cunningham (Earon) and David Cunningham (Lauren); great grandchildren
Kelsey, Haley and Larson Trast; Hannah & Molly Cunningham; and Connor
Cunningham. She was preceded in death by her parents Ted and Marguerite
Blackman, husband Earl, sister Anne and brother Ted.
Betty's life will be noted for her love of people and her willingness
to help others. She accepted people for what they were, forgave them for
what they weren't, and loved them as friends. It would be her wish
that her family and friends continue to share and spread the love she
shared with all.
A memorial service will be held Friday, March 6, 2015, at 1:00 in the Rose
Chapel of Boston Avenue United Methodist Church, 1300 S. Boston, Tulsa,
OK. In lieu of flowers, Betty's family invites those who wish to remember
Betty with a donation to consider giving in her name to: The Little Light
House or the Boston Avenue UM Church's Compassion Ministry.