Pamela Sue Stewart, 58, of Broken Arrow, Okahoma passed away August 26,
2016. She was born December 3, 1957 in Tulsa, Oklahoma to Edward Charles
and Wanda Lee (Lance) Lillich.
Maybe you've slept on her couch. Maybe you've eaten her peanut
butter cookies or played video games with her until 3 A.M. Maybe she's
made you laugh when you haven’t truly laughed in weeks or told you
exactly what you needed to hear when no one else would. Or maybe she just
invited you over for Thanksgiving dinner to make you part of the family
when you thought you had none. She made an impact on every soul she met.
Pam was the second eldest of six (Terry, Ranell, Ronda, Timothy, and Mitchell).
She had a very colorful, tumultuous upbringing that molded her into the
strong woman she fought to become. After settling down from a wild youth,
she made a life-long commitment to the love of her life, Claudia Denise
Miller, on March 13th, 1993 and kept that beautiful commitment until death
did they part. Together they raised a plethora of foster children and
their niece, Amanda Danielle Rappenecker, who is now having a child of
her own with husband, Jeremy. Pam loved her two wonderful daughters, Angela
Marlene Seifert and Wanda LaVonne McInturff and their husbands, Eddie
and Dane respectively, who gave her 8 precious grandbabies, and ultimately,
7 great grandbabies whom she loved with all of her heart. Her friends
usually became family and the family always grew. She was preceded in
death by her mother, Wanda, her Aunt Marlene, and Aunt Sue and will be
thrilled to finally be with them again and to meet her Creator.
The diagnosis of COPD/Emphysema never kept her down. She decided to obtain
her Associate’s degree at the age of 48. This finally made it so
she could have her high school diploma (which she was more proud of than
any degree she received thereafter). She then went on to obtain her Bachelor
Degree and, ultimately, her Master’s degree in Rehabilitation Counseling
at Langston University. She then fulfilled her passion and became a counselor
at a center for addiction treatment and recovery, 12 & 12 Inc.
Pam enjoyed crocheting afghans for her grandbabies, fishing at the Keystone
dam on a cool Oklahoma day, and taking spur-of-the-moment road trips to
New Orleans for a beignet and chicory. She never ate a whole meal, because
she always offered her beloved dog, Chance, half (or more) of her plate.
She dobbed the table for luck when she played bingo, confidently made
unbelievable shots playing pool, and was more excited about the newest
Zelda than anyone 13-year-old boy you know. She also almost cried when
she finally found a pair of pants that would actually cover her long legs
to the bottom, because she never could find a size that would fit her
Sassy, but tasteful. Biggest heart of gold. Modest and spontaneous. Strong
and knowing. Sympathetic ear and no nonsense attitude. The best hugger
on the planet and an absolute force to be reckoned with. Amazing. Remarkable.
At Pam's request, a Celebration of Life will be held 2:00 p.m.-6:00
p.m., Sunday, September 4, 2016 at her daughter's home in Broken Arrow.
Please contact the family for the address and directions.
The family asks that in lieu of flowers, memorial contributions be made
in the form of a donation to her life-long passion of drug and alcohol
rehabilitation. Please send donations to 12 & 12 Inc. at
https://12and12.z2systems.com/np/clients/12and12/donation.jsp or call (918) 347-6793